Wednesday, April 21, 2010

The Impact on Children

Dear Friends,

As promised, this is another in a series of emails to update you about our legal advocacy in the Perry v. Schwarzeneggertrial to preserve traditional marriage.

Perhaps the most critical feature of traditional marriage is the impact the institution has on the creation and raising of children. Simple biology proves that relationships only between a man and woman can result in the creation of a child. It just can’t happen between two men or two women. Further, experts around the globe agree that the ideal family structure for a child is a family headed by two biological parents in a low-conflict marriage. Logically, it only makes sense that society would want to encourage marriage between a child’s biological mother and father, and that is exactly what California (and virtually every other state) has always done. But more than logic supports the public policy adopted by the voters when they enacted Proposition 8.

The contention that there is no discernable difference in the impact on the cognitive, emotional and social well-being of a child between opposite-sex married couples and homosexual couples just isn’t borne out by social science. It is at the core of why Prop 8 was placed on the ballot and why more than seven million Californians supported it.

Like everything else in life, there are exceptions to the rule, but social science research indicates that children who grow up in a family setting other than with their two biological parents are at greater risk for a host of negative challenges, including health problems, premature immortality, suicide, alcohol and drug abuse, criminal behavior, and incarceration.

If that’s not enough, children who do not live with their married, biological parents are at heightened risk for intergenerational poverty, early sexual activity and pregnancy, and are far more likely to face problems in school and the labor force as they enter adulthood.

As we noted in our Findings of Facts document submitted to the court, “many of the negative outcomes associated with not being raised by married, biological parents become more pronounced (or at least more measurable) in adolescence or early adulthood.” In other words, if the challenges that can be brought about by living outside the traditional two-parent family aren’t immediately revealed, it is quite likely, according to social science, that they will become apparent later in life. That is not the kind of environment any parent or any society should intentionally choose for a child.

These are impacts that have been carefully studied and the results are solidly supported. On the other hand, the rarity and novelty of same-sex parenting means social scientists are currently unable to draw meaningful conclusions about its impact on children. That is why there is such uproar over legislators and judges foisting same-sex marriage as a social experiment upon children.

Yet we are being asked by same-sex marriage advocates to put aside what we know for sure for a “cross your fingers and hope for the best” approach because it suits the political agenda and desire of adults.

To be sure, raising children today is infinitely more difficult than in past generations. Many single moms and dads do heroic work every day to raise their children in a loving, secure and safe environment. They have earned our respect and admiration. But laws and public policies are supposed to promote the ideal – the “common good” – for society, especially when it comes to our children. A child who is left fatherless through divorce or abandonment can certainly be lovingly raised by her mother, just as a single dad can lovingly raise his child without a mother. But to promote the idea of purposefully depriving children of a mother or a father simply because a miniscule portion of the population wants to experiment with homosexual marriage is not an acceptable risk.

As always, we thank you for your continued financial support during the continuing legal battle to protect marriage between a man and a woman. Through the month of April, all donations will be matched thanks to a generous benefactor. Every dollar you give will mean two dollars for the effort. We will continue to keep you apprised of the next steps in the San Francisco court case as it unfolds.

Sincerely,

Ron Prentice, Executive Director

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Cross-dressing fetish tied in with Day of Silence for 8 year olds

April 14, 2010 08:41 AM EDT (Updated: April 14, 2010 03:55 PM EDT)
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The Maude Wilkins Elementary School sent a 16 page letter home to parents telling them to dress their boys up in female clothes, "suggesting cheerleader outfits and poodle skirts" for children in the 3rd and 4th grade.

This was for a fashion show to coincide with the Day of Silence, to raise awareness of the bullying of gay and lesbian students.

As a parent who had 3 children, I know that it is tough enough for some kids to escape teasing and bullying.

Wouldn't emulating a cross-dressing fetish put kids more at risk for teasing in the future?

Is this part of the reason our children score so low in math and reading?

What are schools trying to do to 8 and 9 year olds? On the school's website, they are also planning to make April 14th, Grandparents and Special Friends Day.

What type of special friends do they want kids to bring to school, pedophiles?

As expected, parents flooded the School Superintendent's email after reading this nonsense the school planned, and the fashion show was cancelled.

I'm glad my kids are almost finished with school. Anyone who does not want their child exposed to this indoctrination of children, especially 3rd and 4th grades, should seriously consider not sending their children to public school.

I don't think this is what Geraldine had in mind:

"What you see is what you get", sums up the education of kids in public school is receiving these days.

Shouldn't there be more thorough background checks on teachers?

The depravity of society is now being forced upon elementary school kids! What has happened to us?



Updated April 13, 2010

N.J. Elementary School Cancels 'Cross-Dressing' Fashion Show After Complaints

By Joshua Rhett Miller

- FOXNews.com

A school superintendent in New Jersey says a "misunderstanding" led an elementary school teacher to mandate that all students -- including young boys -- dress as women in a now-canceled fashion show to honor Women's History Month.

A school superintendent in New Jersey says a "misunderstanding" led an elementary school teacher to mandate that all students -- including young boys -- dress as women in a now-canceled fashion show to honor Women's History Month.

Maple Shade Township School Superintendent Michael Livengood said the show, which had been scheduled for Friday at Maude Wilkins Elementary School, has been canceled.

"I wish the letter had been clearer and had been worded differently," Livengood told FoxNews.com, referring to a letter sent home to the children's parents last week informing them of the assignment. "But it was a misunderstanding. It was meant to demonstrate students' awareness in women's roles, and along with that, their changes in fashion over time."

In a 16-page packet sent home with students, teacher Tonya Uibel alerted parents that all students in her third grade class would have to participate in the activity, since it would be graded as an "end of unit" assignment. The packet also included suggestions of how students may dress, including fashions from the 1950s, 1960s and 1970s like bellbottoms, poodle skirts and cheerleader outfits. Photographs of fashion icons like Twiggy and Madonna are also included.

"If your child is a young man, he does not have to wear a dress or skirt, as there are many time periods where women wore jeans, pants and trousers. However, each child must be able to express what time period their outfit is from. Most of all, your child should have fun creating their outfit and learning about how women's clothing has changed!"

Livengood said students will now be asked to a draw a picture of a person dressed in clothing from a specific time period as the lessonplan's culminating project.

He said the school's principal, Beth Narcia, had not received "one single" complaint pertaining to the event from parents. But one parent told FoxNews.com she contacted Uibel directly after her 9-year-old son came home "in tears" after getting the assignment.

"My son was very upset," said Janine Giandomenico. "He said, 'Mommy, please don't make me do this.'"

Giandomenico said her son has Asperger's syndrome, a social interaction disorder, and she feared he would expose himself to ridicule from other students if he participated in the show.

"My husband and I are very open-minded, but this is a decision for my son to make when he's old enough to understand it," Giandomenico said. "I thought it was wrong. I felt like I had to say something."

She said she also found it "very odd" that the event was scheduled to coincide with an anti-bullying "Day of Silence" organized by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, which is encouraging students nationwide to remain mute during classes on Friday to call attention to verbal and physical abuse of gay students.

Instead of dressing in historical garments, Giandomenico said she suggested to Uibel that students create skits to memorialize significant moments in history pertaining to women. She also questioned why the fashion show idea was approved at all.

"They chose this route," she said. "And I'm positive that my little boy was not the only one who felt uncomfortable doing this. I'm just being honest. So I felt I had to open my mouth."

In a letter dated Monday, Narcia informed parents that the show, which was to be videotaped, had been canceled. She apologized for "any confusion or frustration" the assignment may have caused.

"I wanted to clear up any misconceptions about the clothing show," the principal wrote. "It was never our intention to have boys dress up as women. There are many different time periods that had women and men dressing in pants, suits, and even sweat suits. Students were just asked to dress as a time period, not as a woman. The children were then being asked to identify their time period of dress."

Calls to the school seeking comment were referred to Livengood.

Stacy Bowen, a mother of two young children in Bucks County, Pa., said she contacted the school's principal after seeing Giandomenico's Facebook posts on the matter.

"I was just so outraged," Bowen said. "I find it completely alarming that a school would do this."

Bowen said she also found it "ironic" that the event was scheduled on the "Day of Silence."

"It's a step out of line," she said. "You're forcing boys to participate in this, yet you stand for anti-bullying. They may feel pressured to do it when they don't want to."

Bowen, whose children are ages 2 and 5, said she would take matters into her own hands if a similar event were held in her school district's classrooms.

"I would've kept my child home," she said. "It's a step too far to portray boys in this manner."

KIRK: Protest Day of Silence?

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Friday has been designated a Day of Silence in most of the nation's schools by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network. That day, many high school (and some middle school) students won't speak during the day in order to show solidarity with gay classmates.

This now-annual event raises a plethora of questions about student rights and the role public schools should play vis-a-vis controversial political and social agendas.

There would be little to object to if the Day of Silence were dedicated only to the proposition that students shouldn't be subjected to slurs of any kind ---- racial, religious, ethnic,or sexual. In my 20 years in the classroom, I enforced this no-slur policy across the board.

GLSEN and similar organizations, however, aren't merely anti-defamation leagues. Rather, they have broader political agendas that concern fundamental social issues about which there is deep public disagreement ---- a fact illustrated in spades by the passionate debate on California's Proposition 8.

The question that arises for school administrators is how to respond to these "silent" student demonstrations. Do they ignore them, discourage them or facilitate and build upon them?

Given the fact that the California Teachers Association gave $1.3 million to the "No on 8" campaign, it is safe to assume that most public schools will be inclined to take the "facilitation" route ---- with some teachers seizing upon this "teachable moment" to further indoctrinate students with their own gay-lesbian-bisexual-transgender vision of society.

This vision, more implicit than explicit, includes the conviction that sexual orientation is purely a genetic given and that male-female households are no more beneficial to children and society than households or relationships of any other sexual configuration.

The fairly obvious truth, however, is that children benefit from male-female domestic models and that human sexual expression is a matter of gradations ---- not a function of gay-straight absolutes. Gradations, however, aren't congenial to folks who place sexual activity in the same black-white categories as race.

Accordingly, the label "bisexual" is regularly employed by youngsters posting at GLSEN's blog to lend an aura of genetic inevitability to actions once termed promiscuous.

Most public schools, I'm confident, would give absolutely no support to a student-led "Day of Silence" that defended the "silent scream" rights of an unborn child. Indeed, many administrators would probably cooperate with the ACLU to prohibit ---- like student prayers at graduation ---- the overt expression of these "religious" beliefs.

Parents who object to having public schools promote a GLBT social agenda should think seriously about keeping their kids home from school on Friday ---- especially if administrators aren't forthcoming about their "Day of Silence" plans.

RICHARD KIRK writes from Menifee. Contact him at kirkrg@netzero.com.